Look at the whole world as a friend and you will build a friendly energy around you. Like a plant, you must grow friendship, water it and take care of it. All non-friendly people are cowards. He is truly a hero who makes the whole world his friend.
We don’t allow the energy of love to flower forth in an upward direction. Love initially is expressed as an inner connection. Then it turns into possessiveness. It is this turn that makes love ugly. To care and connect is one thing, and to be possessive is yet another thing. One has to consciously develop non-possessiveness in a relationship.
If the body itself is not mine, for I must leave it when I die, how can a relationship be mine? This understanding liberates, while non-understanding becomes ugliness in motion.
Another reason why love turns into ugliness is that love and hate, at one level, are indirectly connected. When you love a person and he does not fulfil your love and you start hating the person, your hatred is an inverted form of love.
Negative emotions should be discarded like how one discards a bad habit. It is this discipline one must practice daily. The moment you get interested in others, you will find people getting attracted to you. Drop the words ‘I’ and ‘mine’ as much as possible, and use words like ‘you’ and ‘we’ more often. This will connect you to people.