But even though the room may be different, if it is not the very opposite of the room you were in before, the mind will not relax. For example, if you work on a scientific problem, then you can relax by reading a novel. The work is different: to deal with a scientific problem is to be active – a very masculine mode – whereas to read a novel is to be passive, which is an absolutely feminine mode. Even though you are using the same mind, you will be relaxed. You are not solving anything, you are not active; you are just a receiver.
In the same way, when we love, the intellect does not come into play at all. Quite the opposite happens: the irrational part of your personality comes into action. Intelligence must be balanced by love and love must be balanced by intelligence.
If someone is in love and begins to neglect all intellectual pursuits, this too will create boredom. The same thing happens with an intellectual who neglects the emotional side of his being. These two parts, these two poles, must be in balance, only then is an integrated and individuated human being born.
Abridged from The Great Challenge, Talk #5, courtesy: Osho International Foundation, www.osho.com