The beloved is faultless – perfect.
But being in love, I have lost my reputation.’
So sang the 16th century mystic saint Meera Bai expressing her devotion to Krishn.
When there is so much love, you take total responsibility for misunderstanding. You may express dismay for a moment on the surface. But when you do not feel that in your heart, you arrive at a perfect understanding. You are in a state where all problems and differences slide away and only love shines through.
Usually we get stuck in our differences, because we have lost sight of ourselves. In the name of love, we try to manipulate and control the other person. It is natural that when we love somebody, we want them to be perfect.
You never see the holes in the ground from the top of a hill; from an airplane, the Earth looks very smooth. So also, from a state of elevated consciousness, you do not see the pitfalls in others. But if you come close to the ground, you easily see the holes. And to fill the holes, you have to be able to see them. You cannot till the land without looking at the holes, filling them, removing the pebbles.That is why, when you love somebody, you find faults in them. Instead of helping them to correct themselves, we tend to run away. When you love somebody and see their faults, stay with them and help them. This is wisdom.