A married mom of three is asking Reddit users if she’s an “a******” for refusing to give her estranged daughter a kidney.
The anonymous 38-year-old woman said her daughter, 21, is currently suffering kidney failure.
‘We have been estranged for 3 years, and it was due mainly to the fact that she was taking her health issues, as well as her fights with her dad and stepmom out on me,’ the mother wrote.
She noted that her husband, whom she referred to as Ethan, 49, wants it to be ‘her kidney.’
After telling the doctor that she felt coerced and that she would rather die than help her ‘ungrateful rude daughter,’ the physician told her she was not a ‘compatible donor.’
An anonymous 38-year-old woman said her estranged daughter, 21, is currently suffering kidney failure
Her husband referred to as Ethan, with whom she shares two sons, wants it to be ‘her kidney’ and not donate it
The mom wrote that the estrangement with her daughter was due to the 21-year-old taking her mental health issues and fights with her stepmother and father out on her.
She and Ethan spent ‘hundreds’ on therapy for her daughter, but according to the mother, she has remained ‘bitter and difficult.’
According to the mother, she was disowned by her parents after getting pregnant with her daughter when she was 17.
‘Ethan helped me get a degree in accounting, and also a real estate license,’ she wrote.
‘I have connections from Ethan that are helping me do nearly six figures in real estate commissions and I just joined an accounting firm that hired me based on the client connections I have from Ethan.’
She and Ethan spent ‘hundreds’ on therapy for her daughter, but according to the mother, she has remained ‘bitter and difficult’
The woman wrote that her daughter had little to no contact with her since she was 18 and that ‘she’s back because she needs a kidney.’
‘I made the mistake of letting friends know about her situation and everybody I know from my mommy groups from when my daughter was born started dogpiling on me,’ she said.
Ethan didn’t think involvement of any kind was a good idea, but the mother went to her doctor and found out she was a match.
She attempted to contact her daughter’s father and found out that his wife already screamed at the 21-year-old, ‘How dare she ask this of a father.’
Ethan didn’t think involvement of any kind was a good idea, but the mother went to her doctor and found out she was a match
The mom eventually admitted that she is afraid of the surgery and told her daughter that she was also ‘too new’ at her job.
The two had a bitter argument, which led to her telling the doctor that she did not want to help her daughter.
The mother allegedly told the doctor that she felt coerced and that she’d ‘probably have burning resentment towards the recipient, and the doctors’ if she woke up in pain.
Now, despite receiving support from Ethan, her friends attempted to shame her online and insisted she go back to the doctor to say she changed her mind.
Some social media users made negative comments toward the anonymous mother, and also dissed her husband, stepmother and stepfather
More than 6,000 comments were shared on the Reddit post by users who had mixed feelings about the situation.
Many people dissed her for not helping her dying daughter despite their estrangement.
‘Sounds like nobody cares about this young woman,’ wrote a Reddit user.
Other people sided with her and mentioned that it’s her body her choice but that she should learn to ‘mind her mouth better.’